Strict Parenting: A More Disciplined Child or a More Rebellious Child?

Miara Bonner

Once you bring a child into the world, you are introduced to a new subject of life known as, the science of parenting. According to Global Post, parenting style is defined as, "… the ways in which parents set limits, enforce rules, give affection and teach or support…" However, there are various styles of parenting which differ among individuals. Some parents are very lenient and enforce little rules and consequences, whereas, others are strict and provide many limitations. Although strict parenting may have positive benefits, it also has negative effects on the mental and emotional well-being of children.

Let's discuss the positives of being a strict parent!

1. Clear Boundaries

As a parent, you must ensure that your children understand the value of rules. When children have a clear understanding of rules, it is easier for them to anticipate the consequences of their actions. A more lenient style of parenting will leave your child questioning what is right and what is wrong.

2. Keep You Eyes on the Prize

Strict parents often focus on their child's ability to progress academically and socially. This, in turn, can influence their child to remain focused on success and achievement.
3. Self Regulation

Children who grow in strict households often times grow up to be more mature. Although some children that aren't raised in controlled households grow to be mature, it is scientifically proven that children that are grow to have more self-control and more positive mental health.

Despite the few positives of strict parenting, there are many negative effects that can result from it. Some of these effects include:

1. Rebellion

The purpose of strict parenting is to enforce rules and consequences in a more uniformed way. However, if this tactic is too uniform or harsh, this can result in your child feeling attacked. Once your child feels as though you are becoming more of a dictator than a parent, they will begin to resent you, ignoring rules and consequences.

2. Secrets

As a strict parent, you can become TOO focused on controlling rather than listening and caring. When your child feels as though they cannot talk to you, they will begin to hide small things. However, as time continues, they will hide larger and possibly life changing things. In addition, they may begin to trust people that are outside of their household. You and your child will lose your bond or connection and your child may begin to trust the wrong people.

3. Risky Behavior

Children are extremely curious. When a child feels as though they cannot talk to their parent without feeling judged or unimportant, they will not understand the difference between what they should and should not do. Therefore, this can result in risky behavior with unpredictable results. Furthermore, they will also be more likely to be susceptible to peer pressure and influence.

Nonetheless, strict parenting is not an excuse to disrespect your parents. Your parents are not your friends. However, if you are a parent reading this post, ensure that you are observing your child and your child's feelings. As a parent, you are not only obligated to veer your child in the right direction. You are also obligated to be a support system and caregiver.